Monday, April 21, 2014

clio-jlh:

fleete:

Can I just say that one of my very favorite parts of Winter Soldier was Nick Fury cocking an eyebrow at the police officers side-eyeing his expensive vehicle and sneering, “You wanna see my lease?”

Because the idea of Nick Motherfucking Fury having to deal with shit as disgusting and petty as racial profiling is sort of painfully realistic and heartbreaking.  He’s hugely, massively powerful, and he’s sitting in his bulletproof car pondering decisions of worldwide import, but also he gets pulled over sometimes and asked for his registration because the police assume he stole it.  

Ack.  I was just so pleased that they included that line.

yeah the import of that really struck me the second time I watched the movie.

Sunday, April 20, 2014
No woman wants an abortion like she wants an ice cream cone or a Porsche. She wants an abortion like an animal caught in a trap wants to gnaw off its own leg.

Anonymous  (via sweetfilthpig)

Things men don’t understand #28464

(via izcon)

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

A well-educated time traveller from 1914 enters a room divided in half by a curtain. A scientist tells him that his task is to ascertain the intelligence of whoever is on the other side of the curtain by asking whatever questions he pleases.

The traveller’s queries are answered by a voice with an accent that he does not recognize (twenty-first-century American English). The woman on the other side of the curtain has an extraordinary memory. She can, without much delay, recite any passage from the Bible or Shakespeare. Her arithmetic skills are astonishing—difficult problems are solved in seconds. She is also able to speak many foreign languages, though her pronunciation is odd. Most impressive, perhaps, is her ability to describe almost any part of the Earth in great detail, as though she is viewing it from the sky. She is also proficient at connecting seemingly random concepts, and when the traveller asks her a question like “How can God be both good and omnipotent?” she can provide complex theoretical answers.

Based on this modified Turing test, our time traveller would conclude that, in the past century, the human race achieved a new level of superintelligence. Using lingo unavailable in 1914, (it was coined later by John von Neumann) he might conclude that the human race had reached a “singularity”—a point where it had gained an intelligence beyond the understanding of the 1914 mind.

The woman behind the curtain, is, of course, just one of us. That is to say, she is a regular human who has augmented her brain using two tools: her mobile phone and a connection to the Internet and, thus, to Web sites like Wikipedia, Google Maps, and Quora. To us, she is unremarkable, but to the man she is astonishing. With our machines, we are augmented humans and prosthetic gods, though we’re remarkably blasé about that fact, like anything we’re used to. Take away our tools, the argument goes, and we’re likely stupider than our friend from the early twentieth century, who has a longer attention span, may read and write Latin, and does arithmetic faster.

The time-traveller scenario demonstrates that how you answer the question of whether we are getting smarter depends on how you classify “we.” This is why Thompson and Carr reach different results: Thompson is judging the cyborg, while Carr is judging the man underneath.

If a Time Traveller Saw a Smartphone [x] (via wearethemakersofmanners)
How good would you have to be to feel good enough? How successful, strong, wealthy, intelligent, motivated, attractive, kind? Be honest, would it ever be enough? You have to start cutting yourself some slack and realizing that you’re holding yourself to impossible standards and your judgement of yourself is simply not accurate.

Dan Buffington (via creatingaquietmind)

This has been going through my mind a lot lately…

(via workhard-noexcuses)

Tuesday, April 15, 2014
colleenclarkart:

I made a comic with pretty much the same punchline as this other comic I made maybe no one will notice

colleenclarkart:

I made a comic with pretty much the same punchline as this other comic I made maybe no one will notice

Thursday, April 10, 2014

andythanfiction:

note-a-bear:

graceebooks:

i know most people on tumblr are still high school or college-aged but what many of you don’t seem to understand is how unbelievably sophisticated your fluency in social justice discourse is; i was raised in a relatively progressive atmosphere from birth and went to nyc to study gender and sexuality at the age of 18 and i still didn’t have any conception of like half the stuff tumblr considers baseline knowledge for an acceptable human being until long after i graduated college

^^^^^

A reminder for when you’re dealing with us old fogies. This is kind of how a lot of us didn’t have cell phones until we were well into adulthood, it’s a whole different baseline, and we’re RE-learning what has always been your default.

Saturday, March 22, 2014

Talking on the phone when it makes you anxious

adepressionresource:

Once I was trying to make an appointment with a doctor who didn’t answer the phone, so I left a message. My partner, who was listening, chuckled when I hung up and pointed out that I hadn’t left a call back number. I immediately burst into tears. He had to hold me for almost half an hour until I calmed down, and I never did call them back.

If you are like me experience tension, anxiety, or panic when you use the phone, try these things:

  • Prepare any information you might need. If you are making an appointment, have your agenda and insurance card on hand. If you are calling your bank, checks have your account number on them, so fish those out of your drawer.
  • Pick a good time. If getting an answering machine stresses you out, don’t call an office at 12:30 when most people are at lunch. 
  • Have someone who understands near you for physical comfort. If they are not able to make the phone call for you (like with doctors’ appointments), they can at least hold your hand.
  • Create a script. While it might be harmful and unrealistic to try to anticipate EVERYTHING that may happen in a phone conversation, you can rehearse how it will probably go. For example, maybe you are calling your cousin to RSVP to her party. First she will answer the phone, and then you tell her who you are and why you are calling, and then she will probably say a little bit of something about the party and/or ask you how you are doing.
  • If the phone call necessitates it, take notes. For example, in your anxiety you may totally forget what time your appointment is, or second-guess your memory. This way, you have much less to worry about.
  • Before and after the phone call, engage in self-care and self-comfort. Do whatever healthy coping strategies you would do to assuage panic attacks, both before and after.
  • Reward yourself. If using the phone is associated with negative feelings, turn it around. Do something especially nice for yourself to re-train yourself.
  • Remember that even people who don’t have social anxiety or other anxieties have trouble using the phone! It can be hard to interact with people when you can’t see their body language, but it is certainly do-able.
  • Decide when you really need to use the phone. If you freak out about calling your horrible Great Aunt Margaret on her birthday, send her a nice letter a few days in advance instead. This is not avoidance, this is saving your energy for when you really need it.
  • The other side of the coin: don’t leave phone calls to the last minute or you will be reinforcing your anxiety. Be proactive and it will be a lot less scary!
  • Work up from very easy phone calls. Get an understanding friend to stand in the same room with you and call them and just be silly. Then call them on the weekend to see if they can hang out. Then call a business you have visited before and ask them when they open. Then call your grandmother to chat. And remember to reward yourself each time!
  • If you are concerned about bothering someone else, remember that the other person has a choice whether to pick up or not, so if they do, you are probably not being intrusive. My mother often ignores phone calls when she is cooking dinner, does not get upset or annoyed at the ringing, and then everyone understands when she calls back half an hour later. Likewise, if calling a business, remember that they pay someone to answer the phone, so you are definitely not bothering them.
  • If bothering people continues to concern you, it is totally normal phone behavior to ask someone if it is a good time to talk. They may say yes or they may say no, but then you don’t have to worry about it!

Most people who experience phone anxiety find it mostly manageable, even if extremely unpleasant. It can, however, reach the severity of a legitimate phobia. If your phone anxiety is uncontrollable even after a concerted effort, you may need additional help from a therapist.

Tuesday, March 18, 2014

jon-snow:

people who are still alive despite having died/been poisoned/seemingly on the verge of death:

  • peter
  • deucalion probably
  • jackson
  • gerard
  • isaac
  • the fucking TWINS

people who are dead (and staying dead):

  • kate argent
  • kali
  • erica
  • boyd
  • victoria argent
  • jennifer blake
  • allison argent

LET’S PLAY A GAME CALLED “SPOT THE FUCKING DIFFERENCE”

Monday, March 17, 2014

DO NOT DISTRACT SERVICE DOGS!!!!

nocturnalvisionary:

Hey everyone, this is just a quick reminder that I hope not just service dog peeps reblog, because it’s especially important to those who don’t have service dogs. Please please do not distract service dogs. I know it’s sometimes cool to see, and a lot of us are dog lovers, but making eye contact, asking to pet, petting without permission, whistling, talking to the dog, putting your hand down towards the dog, stopping in front of the handler/dog to stare at the dog, all these things qualify as distracting the service dog. they may seem harmless but they AREN’T. you have no idea what that service dog is there for, they are working, and they need to stay focused on their handler. You can accidentally be the cause of the handler being hurt by distracting the service dog.

Case in point: Today I went to Costco with my friend, we both had our service dogs. Many people were stopping us, talking to us, asking us questions, she has a merle Great Dane, so it’s not common. But a quick trip that would take an average person 10 minutes took us about a half hour because we had to keep stopping or asking people not to distract the dogs, or leave the dogs alone. And then we missed someone. A woman saw my service dog, Scarlett who is still in training and started talking to her. Scarlett crossed over me to see this woman which made Scarlett step on my foot, and trip me, I landed HARD on the Costco floor (which is concrete). And this woman only said “oh, she smells my dogs.” and still stood there hoping for a conversation as two dogs and my friend are trying to help me up, which is NOT easy with leg braces (they finally left after glaring at us when my friend told them they can’t talk to service dogs). Finally using the Great Dane I was able to pull myself up and had to use him as a crutch the rest of the way out. My back is hurt, my knee swollen, and I’ll be recovering for a bit especially considering I was already recovering from a hurt back. ALL OF THIS COULD HAVE BEEN PREVENTED had she not talked to my service dog.

SO PLEASE remember, if you see a service dog, IGNORE IT. I know it’s cool, I know they are rare and pretty and it’s really amazing and we love dogs, I totally get that, but distracting the service dog can really potentially injure the handler.

Saturday, March 15, 2014
What is significant about fan fiction is that it often spins the kind of stories that showrunners wouldn’t think to tell, because fanficcers often come from a different demographic. The discomfort seems to be not that the shows are being reinterpreted by fans, but that they are being reinterpreted by the wrong sorts of fans - women, people of colour, queer kids, horny teenagers, people who are not professional writers, people who actually care about continuity (sorry). The proper way for cultural mythmaking to progress, it is implied, is for privileged men to recreate the works of privileged men from previous generations whilst everyone else listens quietly. That’s how it’s always been done. That’s how it should be done in the future, whatever Tumblr says.
But time can be rewritten. Myths can bend and change. Something new and exciting is happening in the world of storytelling, and fans are an important part of it.
Laurie Penny [x] (via lycanthropique)

(Source: wearethemakersofmanners)

Monday, March 10, 2014

50shadesofacceptance:

superdodirty:

it ok to not be ready

Please spread this shit like wildfire. People go on and sit through the whole experience and they’re uncomfortable because they just want to please their partner and they don’t tell them that they want to stop because they are not ready. It’s okay not to be ready. 

Saturday, March 1, 2014

causeallidoisdance:

muura:

i made this for myself (asked help from facebook friends) but i think maybe it will help someone else too 

omg i needed this right this fucking second jesus thank you

moonblossom:

subtlecluster:

recoveryaffirmations:

Submitted anonymously

i’m just gonna leave this here…

I really needed this right now.

moonblossom:

subtlecluster:

recoveryaffirmations:

Submitted anonymously

i’m just gonna leave this here…

I really needed this right now.

Thursday, February 27, 2014
caskisses:

UNDERSTANDING
types of anxiety disorders // what is panic disorder? // panic disorder & agoraphobia // tips to cope with a panic attack // 3 ways to help someone having a panic attack // 4 things you shouldn’t say to someone having a panic attack // what is obsessive compulsive disorder? // more on ocd // coping with ocd // living with someone who has ocd // what is post-traumatic stress disorder? // coping with ptsd // 10 tips for understanding someone with ptsd //what is social anxiety disorder? // coping with social anxiety disorder // how worrying affects the body
CALMING DOWN
wikihow // helpful tips // 3 practices to calm an anxious mind // how-to guide // creating your mind palace // 3 breathing exercises // 6 breathing exercises // yoga bunny // meditation for beginners // about meditation // yoga with connie bowman // 20 minute yoga routine // yoga to make you happy // guided meditation 
MASTERPOSTS
back to school // helpful websites // happy things // feel good things // college survival // a lil bit of everything // a really big masterpost // music masterpost // diy home spa // coping skills & distractions // for bad days // bad day remedies
BLOGS
yogaholics // killyouranxiety // thatanxietyblog // lets-beat-mental-illness // recoverykitty // yogis-yoginis // healthylifestylechoice // happier-soon // rising.co.vu // catfromhell // you-can-just-breathe (trigger warning: autoplay) // recovery-in-pink // forescent // recoverytree
MUSIC
note to self. // good feelings // coffee shop acoustic // bubble baths, coffee and hardback books // rad covers // a little bit of everything // good morning // breathe // acoustic // conquer school // wheels on the road // choose happy // coffee shop tunes // my faves // good vibes // late winter nights // lovely quiet // overwhelmed // tonight you’re perfect // random [feel]goodies // rewind // crawling back to you // sleepy tunes 
RELAXING NOISES
soundsleeping // noisli // naturesoundsfor.me // ambient-mixer // calmsound // calm.com // mynoise.net // rainymood // coffitivity // soundrown
OTHER
make a grounding box // top 10 essential oils to relieve anxiety // personal care products from walgreens // aromatherapy // 19 natural remedies for anxiety // 7 best anti-anxiety foods // lots and lots of sweaters // stuffed animals // books (free) // used books for 1 cent // electric blankets // soft pillows

caskisses:

UNDERSTANDING

types of anxiety disorders // what is panic disorder? // panic disorder & agoraphobia // tips to cope with a panic attack // 3 ways to help someone having a panic attack // 4 things you shouldn’t say to someone having a panic attack // what is obsessive compulsive disorder? // more on ocd // coping with ocd // living with someone who has ocd // what is post-traumatic stress disorder? // coping with ptsd // 10 tips for understanding someone with ptsd //what is social anxiety disorder? // coping with social anxiety disorder // how worrying affects the body

CALMING DOWN

wikihow // helpful tips // 3 practices to calm an anxious mind // how-to guide // creating your mind palace // 3 breathing exercises // 6 breathing exercises // yoga bunny // meditation for beginners // about meditation // yoga with connie bowman // 20 minute yoga routine // yoga to make you happy // guided meditation 

MASTERPOSTS

back to school // helpful websites // happy things // feel good things // college survival // a lil bit of everything // a really big masterpost // music masterpost // diy home spa // coping skills & distractions // for bad days // bad day remedies

BLOGS

yogaholics // killyouranxiety // thatanxietyblog // lets-beat-mental-illness // recoverykitty // yogis-yoginis // healthylifestylechoice // happier-soon // rising.co.vu // catfromhell // you-can-just-breathe (trigger warning: autoplay) // recovery-in-pink // forescent // recoverytree

MUSIC

note to self. // good feelings // coffee shop acoustic // bubble baths, coffee and hardback books // rad covers // a little bit of everything // good morning // breathe // acoustic // conquer school // wheels on the road // choose happy // coffee shop tunes // my faves // good vibes // late winter nights // lovely quiet // overwhelmed // tonight you’re perfect // random [feel]goodies // rewind // crawling back to you // sleepy tunes 

RELAXING NOISES

soundsleeping // noisli // naturesoundsfor.me // ambient-mixer // calmsound // calm.com // mynoise.net // rainymood // coffitivity 
// soundrown

OTHER

make a grounding box // top 10 essential oils to relieve anxiety // personal care products from walgreens // aromatherapy // 19 natural remedies for anxiety // 7 best anti-anxiety foods // lots and lots of sweaters // stuffed animals // books (free) // used books for 1 cent // electric blankets // soft pillows

Tuesday, February 25, 2014
jackpowerx:

fuckyesfeminist:

Average size mannequin with average size woman.

The problem, in one picture.

jackpowerx:

fuckyesfeminist:

Average size mannequin with average size woman.

The problem, in one picture.